Using our definition, if your child has asked the other child to stop more than once and that child does not, it is considered bullying. Period. Simple.
Identifying and Documenting Bullying
By: J.E. DiMarco and M.K. Newman
When Your Child Is Bullied: Real Solutions for Families
This document is one in a series that focuses on the challenges parents, schools and the community face in tackling the growing problem of bullying. This paper focuses on the specific area of identifying if a child is being bulled and the importance of documenting the incident(s).
Signals a Child Is Being Bullied
It is not always easy to determine if a child is being bullied or just going through normal emotions associated with growing up. Below is a list of possible signals.
Potential Behavior Changes in Children That Are Bullied:
Acting differently in general
General anxiety about school and school events
Shifts in online activity (large increases or reductions)
Frequent complaints of sicknesses such as stomach aches and headaches
Looking down frequently
Avoiding eye contact
More somber moods
School work/grades are negatively affected
Eating more or less than usual
Difficulty sleeping, or sleeping more hours
Agitated and jumpy
Asking what if questions, such as "What if I were home schooled?"
Spending many hours reading or studying-even when other kids are around and being social
Quieter in class, lunch, and recess
Skipping school and social events
Increased isolation in his room, or alone more frequently
Not wanting to participate in any sports or activities outside of school
Crying, moody, depressed, angry
Increased fighting with siblings and parents
These are just some of the many signs a child might be exhibiting if he is being bullied. The important thing to look for is a difference in typical behavior. Many signs could be easily ignored and explained away by hormonal changes or typical childhood phases.