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Identifying: Yes it is Bullying!
The Individual Bullying Cycle
Using our definition, if your child has asked the other child to stop more than once and that child does not, it is considered bullying. Period. Simple.

Identifying and Documenting Bullying
By: J.E. DiMarco and M.K. Newman
When Your Child Is Bullied: Real Solutions for Families

Executive summary
This document is one in a series that focuses on the challenges parents, schools and the community face in tackling the growing problem of bullying. This paper focuses on the specific area of identifying if a child is being bulled and the importance of documenting the incident(s).

Signals a Child Is Being Bullied
It is not always easy to determine if a child is being bullied or just going through normal emotions associated with growing up.   Below is a list of possible signals.
Potential Behavior Changes in Children That Are Bullied:
  • Acting differently in general
  • General anxiety about school and school events
  • Shifts in online activity (large increases or reductions)
  • Frequent complaints of sicknesses such as stomach aches and headaches
  • Looking down frequently
  • Avoiding eye contact
  • More somber moods
  • School work/grades are negatively affected
  • Eating more or less than usual
  • Difficulty sleeping, or sleeping more hours
  • Agitated and jumpy
  • Paranoid
  • Asking what if questions, such as "What if I were home schooled?"
  • Spending many hours reading or studying-even when other kids are around and being social
  • Quieter in class, lunch, and recess
  • Skipping school and social events
  • Increased isolation in his room, or alone more frequently
  • Not wanting to participate in any sports or activities outside of school
  • Crying, moody, depressed, angry
  • Increased fighting with siblings and parents
  • Nightmares
These are just some of the many signs a child might be exhibiting if he is being bullied.  The important thing to look for is a difference in typical behavior.  Many signs could be easily ignored and explained away by hormonal changes or typical childhood phases.